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My husband spent Feb-July of 2003 in Iraq. His unit the 46th eng bn out of ft Polk, LA did nothing to aid freeing anyone or finding any weapons of mass destruction they wasted millions of tax payer dollars, period. They built two seperate prisons and when completed were given orders to burn everything burnable and bulldoze the rest into the ground. That is all they did the entire time. My husband came home defeated, not proud of what he did. Now we are with a new unit out of Ft Lewis WA. My husband does nothing all day and occassionally attends classes he left 3 weeks ago estimated time of return...WHO THE HELL KNOWS.
This is our ninth year of service, in which he has never been home more than 9 months consecutively.I gave birth to both my kids with him deployed, I have been Mayor I have been active in the frg, but this war, is nothing but a lie to extrapolate money. Period.
How am I supposed to live with this? How are any of us? I am so tired of the army propoganda that they care about families, no no no. As an frg leader and coordinator I can tell you no, the Army sees families as a pain in the ass and that is it.
The Army passes out antidepressants to wives like candy and has most of them so doped up they can’t even function to take care of their own children.
On top of this they try and require families to attend political rallies for the president when he comes to "speak" to the troops. They sent home letters dictating everything from how we should dress to appropriate responses to journalists in the area. When we flat out refused they put my husband on extra duty. He signed up to be a soldier, not a political pawn for a lying tyrant.
I am MAD AS HELL. He agreed to serve His country not be used to the point of mental breakdown. Many of the soldiers he deployed with who were going for a second time are on all forms of antidepressants, yet they were still deployed.
Its complete insanity. And if anything happens to him, I am taking that flag and shoving it ************.
We are no longer in a democratic state. This is a totalitarian hell.
sabrina
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31 August 2004, 18:51
Hi military wife, thank you for posting..from a military mom who speaks out as the 2 in our family who already served 15 months in Iraq (extended) are facing yet another tour in Iraq within 6 months from now...duration they will serve in their 2nd tour in Iraq...unknown.
May I have permission to reprint your comment to 2 of my blogs = Dying to Preserve the Lies and On The Horizon? Also, if you haven’t already, see Military Families Speak Out at
http://www.mfso.org/
respectfully,
horizon@swandeer.com
1 September 2004, 01:58
I too am an Army wife and my husband is also serving in Iraq and we have two children. I happened upon your article totally by accident as my husband is stationed at Fort Lewis and I receive any news articles about him or his unit so I can keep tabs on where he is. Personally, I think that what you had to say about being in the Army is a disgrace. I have been in the Army practically my whole life. My father served for 25 years and I proudly married a soldier too. If you think that it is so bad, your husband has the option of getting out. He is coming up on re-enlistment time isn’t he? The fact that people like you are part of the FRG is the reason that people like me stay far away from it. What kind of support could you give me with that attitude? And you think that the army treats families bad then talk to an earlier generation where FRG did not exist and your husband could go with you to a doctor’s appointment. I am proud of what my husband is doing and so is he. The Army wives and other soldiers being on anti-depressants? Well first of all, a lot of them fake it to try to get their husbands or themselves out of going to Iraq and if the vast majority of them were not so helpless then maybe they wouldn’t need them. I have plenty of examples if you want some. I guess that plan failed for the people you know. Honestly that’s what they get! This is a time where you need to support what your husband is doing whether or not you believe in the cause. He doesn’t need your anger hanging over him while he is there. Your husband enlisted by choice and re-enlisted again by choice. He is doing what the Army is paying him to do. If you think the pay is so bad get out and live off the economy. I bet that you won’t be as well off as you are now. Obviously you are depending on the Army as you live on post. If you think that life would be better as a civilian then go! The army doesn’t need someone like you. Personally the way it sounds, I wouldn’t want my husband to serve next to yours. Like I said at ten you are free to go! One last thing, you should be ashamed of yourself for talking about our flag that way! If the United States is so bad, then leave!!!
8 September 2004, 09:45
Is there anything more pathetic than people who live off of money they are given for killing???? I would bet you warmongers even claim to be Christians. Where is your conscience? How can you make careers out of being professional killers? You should all know that according to anything I have ever been taught about morality and religion, you will surely go to hell if you are not already there. And even worse you would sacrifice your children to the evil war machine and try to fool yourselves and everyone else that you don’t know Jesus will condemn you.
21 September 2004, 12:10
Now I am curious, are you a Christian?
17 September 2004, 04:14
This comment if for the wife of her husband in Iraq for the second time.... I agree with alot you said. My husband is also in the Army and I have observed alot of it first hand. To the women that posted so negativley to your posting finding it disgusting, I would like to know what her level of education is??? She sounded like a brain washed women. I feel sorry for her. Fortunatley, our constitution gaurantees us freedom of speech, freedom to speak for or speak against our government. You go girl!!
16 March 2006, 23:18
Hello!
My name is Monica Henry and I came across your message while researching for my thesis on military spouses. I am originally from Washington State but I am currently living in Costa Rica pursuing a Masters Degree at the University For Peace (United Nations affiliated graduate school) in “Gender and Peace Building” in order to better identify and understand the different needs of men, women, boys and girls in conflict and post-conflict situations. I hope to eventually work with governments and/or people in conflict and post-conflict situations to reduce incidents of gender based violence.
My father served in Vietnam (U.S. Navy UDT12 from 1964 to 1968) and I have several friends whose husbands are serving/served in Iraq. After listening to their stories, I decided that I’d like to research (for my thesis) the difficulties faced by military spouses during deployments (in general), the impact of protestors/protests on servicemen/women and their families as well as the experiences of those who oppose(d) the war (openly or not). Overall, the purpose of this project is to increase awareness within academia (and hopefully beyond!) about the experiences of military spouses during deployments and to gain a better understanding of the impact of protests on servicemen/women and their families. I am also interested in the experiences of those who do not support the war (whether Vietnam or Iraq) because I feel that this impacts the way in which a spouse deals with deployments, etc. I feel that in order to do justice to this topic it is necessary to include the diverse experiences and perspectives of military spouses (geographic locations, political orientation, support/opposition for the wars, length of military service, etc).
Although my main focus is military spouses, I am also interested in hearing the perspective of servicemen/women and veterans. I am searching for the spouses of servicemen/women and veterans (Iraq & Vietnam) as well as servicemen/women and veterans (Iraq & Vietnam) themselves to interview (via email) for this project. If you or anyone you know would be interested in assisting me, please contact me at: themis@runbox.com for more information. All sources have the option of remaining anonymous and should they decide at any point in time that they do not want to participate, I will refrain from using any information that they have provided me with.
All the best,
Monica Henry
themis@runbox.com